damn damn damn

What's more cruel than a woman getting pregnant through IVF after years of IF, only to lose the baby?

Her getting pregnant a second time through IVF, after a textbook-perfect cycle and with excellent beta results, only to lose the baby again. Possibly an ovary, too.

Damn it! What do you say to someone in that situation? How do you keep believing that God really does have a plan for us? I can't even begin to see the possiblity of any good in this situation at all. My heart is breaking for her, and I'm pissed as hell at whoever decided this was how this should go.